Vanilla sex is hardly spoken about but it’s cute like imagine whispering I love you to someone and hearing them moan and being so caught up in the pleasure and endorphins that you basically melt into eachother while holding hands and kissing eachother
Anonymous asked:
instructor144 answered:
Some people find it almost impossible to bruise, while other are covered with bruises if you even look at them the wrong way. :) Followers, any ideas?
Bruises are where blood leaks out of teeny vessels. To be visible they need to be under the skin, and of contrasting enough color to be seen through the melanin and the skin itself.
So youth, thickness of skin, melanin and genetics are factors.
Okay, so there needs to be a vessel that springs a leak for long enough that the blood and blood products can leak out.
Easiest thing to try first is a not so warmed up ass, a few good impacts (the wider the implement, the more dispersed the forces, so a narrow paddle like a cricket bat shape is a great choice). Have a heating pad on high. After last impact, sit on it. Let the heat draw out blood, and gravity send it right to skin for several minutes. Repeat as you can until you see light bruising and then stay put for 10 minutes or longer.
A little blood thining can add to the volume too. Things like garlic oil pills, avoiding leafy greens a week before hand (vitamin K in them slows bleeding), some baby aspirin, alcohol, and any NSAID are all gonna be blood thinning.
Anon, it may have nothing to do with your pain tolerance. He may be just good at warming you up enough that bruising doesn’t happen easily is all.
If it’s his marks, and not specifically bruises, you’re after…
Canes tend to welt. Whippy, little stingy ones will leave a fine welt. Bite marks. Scratch marks. Wheel marks (like a kinky connect the dots). Rope marks (tend not to last more than a few hours). His cum dried onto you and left in place. Erotic body writing. (Use a felt tip style hypoallergenic waterproof eye liner and let dry. Won’t rash. Won’t stain skin like markers. Stays put, even in water. Can be taken off with makeup wipes in an emergency.)
See yourself as his blank canvas. Let him create you by expanding the palette.
Hope this info helps you get to where you’re wanting to go.
Some of the best bruises I’ve ever seen were made by tapping lightly with a 3′ length of rebar.
@sincardinality was that rebar a #3 (3/8")?
Used like a cane, yes? (Flat landing across both ass cheeks)
Fun Fact: the #3 weighs in at 0.376 lbs/ft, so if that rebar “cane” was a #3, it’d weigh in at 1.128 lbs.
So I’m thinking there’s a lot of thud before the rebound (delayed, radiating out) sting. So this would be the depth charge (think boilermaker) of impact.
This sounds like something @crusoesampersand (she of the firehose beating tribe) might need to know.
Thanks for the tag @submissive-seeking, I admit to being tickled that you remember my penchant for firehose. Rebar sounds like something we need to try soon. In the meantime I would like to start a firehose beating tribe as it is my absolute favorite implement!
Firehose leaves a distinct striping that lends itself well to the outside of the ass cheeks. Because of the weight of the hose it can be swung with the same hand, but equal(ish) velocity both forward and back so the bottom is evenly marked. The top doesn’t need to move much in order to strike both ass cheeks, it is much like a flogger in that respect. I do consider it about the perfect implement.
For polka dot marks I “like” a paracord monkey fist flogger. This leaves tiny finger-print sized bruises all over the ass. IMO there must be warm-up for this implement as it fucking hurts. I’m an impact slut and find this particular implement very, very intense.
If the desire is marks, these tools give the most “bang for the buck” on the ass (best coverage) From a safety perspective, I feel the bottom should be standing (perhaps cuffed with arms overhead) in order to ensure the top can accurately strike the ass.
All that written, I don’t believe the marks or bruises should be the purpose of a beating. It isn’t a contest. Bruises are not an indicator of pain tolerance, nor do they “prove” how much you can endure or if you’re a good bottom or sub. And, as indicated above, there are many other factors that determine how much (or little) a person will bruise. Personally, when it comes to a beating I’m there for the connection not the “badge.”
Although @crusoesampersand as a proud Girl Scout, I think we should totally get badges for like each implement at least …..
Anonymous asked:
reflectedtruthsblog answered:
The short answer is yes. But, of course, your question deserves a more thorough answer and it would be irresponsible to leave it at that.
D/s is, by its nature, an exchange of power, not a sexual relationship per se. The submissive gives up control in various aspects of her life to her Dominant partner. Through NEGOTIATION. What aspects, to what degree, within what limits - it’s all negotiated, agreed upon between the Dom and sub. That is why you will often hear that each dynamic is unique, no two the same. Every dynamic is the result of a separate negotiation, a reflection of the individual personalities and the way they meld together.
Not every dynamic includes sex. Not every dynamic is full-time. Not every dynamic is in person. Not every dynamic is monogamous, masochistic or male-female. Not every dynamic is romantic, arousing or uses rope.
Ultimately, you need to know what you are willing and able to do. What are you looking for in a power exchange? And here’s the kicker - are you ready for one? I know virtually nothing about you from your ask, so I’m covering some general bases here.
First, if you haven’t, spend time researching. There’s no hurry. This life can wait. I know people who were well into their 50s before making their entry, and they are enjoying it just as much as their younger peers. I might even venture to say that some may even have a greater a appreciation, having lived life so long without, but that would be presumptuous, so I won’t. Research what’s out there, what interests you, what are you drawn to.
Ask yourself some hard questions. Are you ready to jump in now? And why now? Kudos to you for saving yourself for marriage - that’s a hard thing to do these days. Have you considered how the act of a power exchange might affect your future relationship? Is D/s the sort of thing you would also rather save for a marriage relationship? If not, then by all means, proceed. But if, when you honestly examine yourself, you find that to be the case, do your research, and then wait on that too.
If you do pursue a non-sexual D/s relationship, vetting will be critical. @instructor144 has some excellent posts on vetting Doms that I’m sure he will reblog when he sees this. (If you don’t already follow him, you should start right away!) Remember, the Dom will be vetting you, too! He absolutely needs to know up front that you are a virgin, that you will not and do not want to have sex under any condition, that it’s a hard limit, etc. Any Dom that can’t respect that or who tries to get you to move on that issue is immediately a no-go!
Once you’ve vetted a Dom, you’ll want to be sure to have some very clear discussions/negotiations with him first. You need to clearly enumerate what is off-limits.
So much for the short answer, right?
I hope you found this helpful! Thank you for the ask, and good luck!
-rtb
I got the same Anon Ask, verbatim, a couple of weeks ago.
I’m cute. I look innocent. I’m well educated and intelligent. But I have needs… gross needs.
Classy girls have sex. I’m a slut. Sluts get fucked. I need you to fuck my ass, hard. If I’m not screaming then you aren’t fucking me hard enough. Use my juices as lube. You’ll find that dripping down my legs collecting at my knees. Drown your hand in it. Force it inside me, it will fit if you make it. My cunt doesn’t deserve your cock. Turn me inside out. My hole is your playground and you are my God.
